Authenticity

Did you know that individuals respond better to you when you are your authentic self? As a counsellor or anyone supporting another individual, how important is it to be authentic?  What does “being” authentic mean to you?  Food for thought as we continue. When looking at the synonyms that go with “authentic” the words true, […]

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Addressing a concern stated about a previous article “Loss Due to Discrimination

I want to share a comment that came through to me after a Newsletter on “Loss Due to Discrimination” went out on April 20, 2020.  I am doing this, because a valid point is being made by this individual and others need to know this.  If one person is stating it, many more are thinking […]

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Loss Due to Discrimination

Are you a professional in need of more support to help grieving individuals? Specific reference is being made to loss due to discrimination, but it is important to realize this loss can be combined with other losses.  Sometimes this is not recognized by counsellors or their clients.  I may have just given you some food […]

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Sex after Loss

Points to consider; Increased promiscuity Increased sex drive Decreased sex drive STD’s Sexually Transmitted Diseases Demographics Condoms When speaking to individuals about sex and intimacy after a loss there are areas of discussion that many counselors ignore completely or shy away from when speaking with clients. Start the conversation or take your client’s lead when they […]

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No Tolerance after a Loss

  I share this post as an observation to help you help others with grief and loss. Have you ever looked at, listened to or lived with someone after a close relationship ended, even by death?  One theme that is common among many grieving individuals is a lack of tolerance for many things.  Collectively the […]

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Since my loss, I forget how to prepare meals

“I forget how to prepare meals” is a comment I have heard several times from the primary cook in a family after a sudden and/or traumatic death loss, which is defined by the individual, not myself.  You may wonder how someone can forget how to cook meals. Consider for a moment what the grieving person […]

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What are You Avoiding?

What are you avoiding when a loss has occurred or you know it is going to happen soon?  “GRIEF” may be the main experience you want to avoid. Does anyone willingly go into grief and if so does avoidance present itself at some time? Keeping busy doing anything to avoid thinking about death and loss is […]

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Love Them Anyway

Have you ever noticed there are people in your life who just drive you nuts?  There are people who do not seem to do it the “right way”; the people who just seem to be so different from you and at the same time are a part of your family.  What do you do? Love […]

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Words Make It Real For You and Me

Hearing the words you or someone you know is dying makes death more “real” for some people.  Does this mean denial or fear is in the picture? Does this mean someone is not ready to deal with the reality as it is at that particular moment?  Is there a right or wrong approach to dealing with […]

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Grief and Traumas Show on Your Face

The more I counsel an individual, the more I see the stress from loss and traumas leave their face. I have always said grief is mental, emotional, physical and spiritual.  I cannot see the spiritual components on the outside of someone, but the other three aspects are shown on their face. The experiences of mental agony, […]

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