Grief Perceived as Anger

Anger is often described as a stage of grief after a loss and in some cases this is true.  Often the perceived anger associated with one loss may be compounded by unexpected additional stresses.  The individual may feel changes in themself and others may notice or think something is wrong. Low tolerance or no tolerance […]

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Teachable Moments with Children and Death

Finding teachable moments to talk with children about death may seem daunting to some people, while others have no trouble.  Depending on the situation, the opportunity may happen suddenly and it takes presence of mind to catch the moment or prior planning can go into creating teachable moments. One story I read spoke of finding […]

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When Death and Loss Are Too Close

When death and loss are closer than you are prepared to deal with, what happens to you?  How do you process this information?  Does fear and panic take over and if so, for how long?  Does the flight or fight reaction come to the surface?  The reality is none of us are getting out of […]

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Who Will Remember My Loved One?

One comment that is expressed often after a loved one dies is, “Who will remember him/her/they now that they are gone”?  The individual is important to you, but you have no idea who else will remember and how or when this will happen. I read a memorial article in the paper for a young girl […]

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What Some People Say About Those Who Die by Suicide

The fact that people die by suicide has been around for hundreds of year.  I am going to focus on the present times with this article and what comments are said or heard after a suicide death has occurred; especially if you are on the receiving end of those comments. It was their time to […]

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Death Doula?

I was talking with a man recently about the loss of his wife to cancer.  The conversation then shifted to him sharing how his daughter is a Doula.  Since the conversation prior to this was about death, I assumed he was referring to a “death doula”.  He looked at me surprised and asked what a […]

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Children and Suicide

Children and suicide is a fact more so now than ever before.  As a grief counsellor, I have parents come for counselling; more often it is the moms.  A child can be any age, but for this article I am referring to younger, school aged children. The questions are numerous and I do not have […]

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Rainbow Baby

  I heard the term “Rainbow Baby” during a conversation and wondered what it was about.  Having worked with child loss in a few areas such as educational courses, extra training with the “Pregnancy and Infant Loss” network (PAIL), Project Rachel for post abortion counselling and one on one counselling with clients; I have never […]

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Last Love Letter

Have you ever given a thought to your last love letter?  I do not mean “love letter” in the Valentine’s sense.  I mean an after you die letter that is left to your loved ones, family and friends; a letter that is positive not negative. Picture this in your mind, amidst tears and sadness your […]

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No One to Call Mom or Dad

No one to call mom or dad may have numerous applications and reasons for being a fact of life for some individuals.  Good or bad, happy or sad, wanted or not wanted it happens! Divorce, death, estrangement, and other circumstances can play a part in having no one to call mom or dad at any […]

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