Grief and Traumas Show on Your Face

The more I counsel an individual, the more I see the stress from loss and traumas leave their face. I have always said grief is mental, emotional, physical and spiritual.  I cannot see the spiritual components on the outside of someone, but the other three aspects are shown on their face. The experiences of mental agony, […]

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Grief Support Groups Are Not All The Same

Grief support groups are not all created equal.  Grief is unique to the individual and having a variety of groups to choose from may be beneficial.  Be informed and know what you need.  Know if you are appropriate for group sessions or if group work is appropriate for you. Grief support groups can be opened […]

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Grief Perceived as Anger

Anger is often described as a stage of grief after a loss and in some cases this is true.  Often the perceived anger associated with one loss may be compounded by unexpected additional stresses.  The individual may feel changes in themself and others may notice or think something is wrong. Low tolerance or no tolerance […]

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Teachable Moments with Children and Death

Finding teachable moments to talk with children about death may seem daunting to some people, while others have no trouble.  Depending on the situation, the opportunity may happen suddenly and it takes presence of mind to catch the moment or prior planning can go into creating teachable moments. One story I read spoke of finding […]

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When Death and Loss Are Too Close

When death and loss are closer than you are prepared to deal with, what happens to you?  How do you process this information?  Does fear and panic take over and if so, for how long?  Does the flight or fight reaction come to the surface?  The reality is none of us are getting out of […]

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Who Will Remember My Loved One?

One comment that is expressed often after a loved one dies is, “Who will remember him/her/they now that they are gone”?  The individual is important to you, but you have no idea who else will remember and how or when this will happen. I read a memorial article in the paper for a young girl […]

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What Some People Say About Those Who Die by Suicide

The fact that people die by suicide has been around for hundreds of year.  I am going to focus on the present times with this article and what comments are said or heard after a suicide death has occurred; especially if you are on the receiving end of those comments. It was their time to […]

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Death Doula?

I was talking with a man recently about the loss of his wife to cancer.  The conversation then shifted to him sharing how his daughter is a Doula.  Since the conversation prior to this was about death, I assumed he was referring to a “death doula”.  He looked at me surprised and asked what a […]

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Children and Suicide

Children and suicide is a fact more so now than ever before.  As a grief counsellor, I have parents come for counselling; more often it is the moms.  A child can be any age, but for this article I am referring to younger, school aged children. The questions are numerous and I do not have […]

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Rainbow Baby

  I heard the term “Rainbow Baby” during a conversation and wondered what it was about.  Having worked with child loss in a few areas such as educational courses, extra training with the “Pregnancy and Infant Loss” network (PAIL), Project Rachel for post abortion counselling and one on one counselling with clients; I have never […]

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