Life Insurance and Suicide

Life insurance is purchased for a variety of reasons and used after death to help with final expenses, pay off a mortgage, to leave extra money to family or a charity and whatever else you can think of.  Sometimes, people have suicide in their mind when deciding to purchase life insurance. Perhaps the individual who […]

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Love Them Anyway

Have you ever noticed there are people in your life who just drive you nuts?  There are people who do not seem to do it the “right way”; the people who just seem to be so different from you and at the same time are a part of your family.  What do you do? Love […]

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Words Make It Real For You and Me

Hearing the words you or someone you know is dying makes death more “real” for some people.  Does this mean denial or fear is in the picture? Does this mean someone is not ready to deal with the reality as it is at that particular moment?  Is there a right or wrong approach to dealing with […]

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Why didn’t I see the signs?

Often I counsel individuals who have experienced the suicide death of someone they care deeply about. One of the most common questions I hear is “Why didn’t I see the signs”?  What if that individual made certain you did not see any signs? There are a few variables to consider when asking “Why didn’t I see […]

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Grief and Traumas Show on Your Face

The more I counsel an individual, the more I see the stress from loss and traumas leave their face. I have always said grief is mental, emotional, physical and spiritual.  I cannot see the spiritual components on the outside of someone, but the other three aspects are shown on their face. The experiences of mental agony, […]

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Grief Support Groups Are Not All The Same

Grief support groups are not all created equal.  Grief is unique to the individual and having a variety of groups to choose from may be beneficial.  Be informed and know what you need.  Know if you are appropriate for group sessions or if group work is appropriate for you. Grief support groups can be opened […]

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Grief Perceived as Anger

Anger is often described as a stage of grief after a loss and in some cases this is true.  Often the perceived anger associated with one loss may be compounded by unexpected additional stresses.  The individual may feel changes in themself and others may notice or think something is wrong. Low tolerance or no tolerance […]

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Teachable Moments with Children and Death

Finding teachable moments to talk with children about death may seem daunting to some people, while others have no trouble.  Depending on the situation, the opportunity may happen suddenly and it takes presence of mind to catch the moment or prior planning can go into creating teachable moments. One story I read spoke of finding […]

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When Death and Loss Are Too Close

When death and loss are closer than you are prepared to deal with, what happens to you?  How do you process this information?  Does fear and panic take over and if so, for how long?  Does the flight or fight reaction come to the surface?  The reality is none of us are getting out of […]

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Who Will Remember My Loved One?

One comment that is expressed often after a loved one dies is, “Who will remember him/her/they now that they are gone”?  The individual is important to you, but you have no idea who else will remember and how or when this will happen. I read a memorial article in the paper for a young girl […]

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