January a New Beginning

January, the start of a new year; what do you say to yourself?  For some there are thoughts of resolutions or goals.  Stop smoking, lose weight, and get more physically active or whatever is decided.  Now, add the grief component, what do you say to yourself and what comes to mind? Depending on how long […]

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What if I had listened to that voice in my head?

“What if I had listened to that voice in my head?”  Have you said this to yourself or heard someone say this? What happens when you feel death results from your not paying attention or not acting on the perceived warning you received? Some people call this intuition, that voice in their head, their angels […]

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How your sadness and grief can affect your family

Have you ever thought about how your grief affects other family members; children, grandchildren, a partner and who ever else may be closely connected to you?  Chances are that when you are in the midst of grief this is the last thing you are thinking of. For some people the midst of grief can be […]

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Holiday Season Sadness

I am sharing a little information for you to take note of. The Holiday Season is a good time to see people and share in the festivities, visiting with family and friends, but what if you are not ready for this and no one knows it? There are many people who will not and do not […]

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Potentials for The Other Side of Grief and Loss

First, it is important to recognize that there is the potential for individuals to experience love, joy and happiness after a loss.  Sometimes, they need help realizing this potential in themselves. You can help them do that. Knowing that grief can be looked at in three different compartments can be used as a visual to easily […]

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Sex after Loss

Points to consider; Increased promiscuity Increased sex drive Decreased sex drive STD’s Sexually Transmitted Diseases Demographics Condoms When speaking to individuals about sex and intimacy after a loss there are areas of discussion that many counselors ignore completely or shy away from when speaking with clients. Start the conversation or take your client’s lead when they […]

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“Suicide Boys” FYI!!!

In this short note, I am sharing important information with you as professionals and individuals who want to support and understand what is happening in the world. Recently I was speaking with a mom whose teen aged child died by suicide.  With permission I share how she wants others to know about what she found […]

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No Tolerance after a Loss

  I share this post as an observation to help you help others with grief and loss. Have you ever looked at, listened to or lived with someone after a close relationship ended, even by death?  One theme that is common among many grieving individuals is a lack of tolerance for many things.  Collectively the […]

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Adoption and Loss

Perhaps you have come across this situation in your counselling practice or you are a party in a similar circumstance. Unexpectedly, in June 2019 I was contacted by a woman stating she thinks she is my half sister. “YA RIGHT”!  I was skeptical and suspicious about who this person was. Out of respect, I messaged her back […]

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Organ Donations Begin with You

Organ donation begins with you making a decision whether to donate your organs after death or not. Having the conversation about your decision needs to be done with family, friends, doctor and whoever else you think should be aware of your choice. Recently when renewing my license this question came up in discussion.  This can be […]

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