What are You Avoiding?

What are you avoiding when a loss has occurred or you know it is going to happen soon?  “GRIEF” may be the main experience you want to avoid. Does anyone willingly go into grief and if so does avoidance present itself at some time? Keeping busy doing anything to avoid thinking about death and loss is […]

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Loss Due to Discrimination

Consider for a moment the many ways people are discriminated against.  Hmmm, there is discrimination connected to sexual orientations, colour, race, religious beliefs, gender, mental illness, financial wealth or lack of it, and the colour of your eyes.  I’m sure you get the idea that discrimination is a part of life. Another part of discrimination […]

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Adjusting to my family as it is now!

For some individuals saying, “I am adjusting to my family as it is now” is a difficult statement to make.  A family member may have died or there has been a drastic change in the family for some reason.  What has it taken for someone to get to this point in their life?  How much […]

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Triggers with Child Loss at any Age

Are you someone who no longer has your child in your life for whatever reason?  Perhaps you know someone who no longer has their child in their life.  Reasons such as, miscarriage, infant death, murder, missing person, suicide, abortion, or estrangement can create causes for triggers with child loss. When I say “child”, if grandchild, […]

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Life Insurance and Suicide

Life insurance is purchased for a variety of reasons and used after death to help with final expenses, pay off a mortgage, to leave extra money to family or a charity and whatever else you can think of.  Sometimes, people have suicide in their mind when deciding to purchase life insurance. Perhaps the individual who […]

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Love Them Anyway

Have you ever noticed there are people in your life who just drive you nuts?  There are people who do not seem to do it the “right way”; the people who just seem to be so different from you and at the same time are a part of your family.  What do you do? Love […]

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Words Make It Real For You and Me

Hearing the words you or someone you know is dying makes death more “real” for some people.  Does this mean denial or fear is in the picture? Does this mean someone is not ready to deal with the reality as it is at that particular moment?  Is there a right or wrong approach to dealing with […]

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Why didn’t I see the signs?

Often I counsel individuals who have experienced the suicide death of someone they care deeply about. One of the most common questions I hear is “Why didn’t I see the signs”?  What if that individual made certain you did not see any signs? There are a few variables to consider when asking “Why didn’t I see […]

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Grief and Traumas Show on Your Face

The more I counsel an individual, the more I see the stress from loss and traumas leave their face. I have always said grief is mental, emotional, physical and spiritual.  I cannot see the spiritual components on the outside of someone, but the other three aspects are shown on their face. The experiences of mental agony, […]

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Grief Support Groups Are Not All The Same

Grief support groups are not all created equal.  Grief is unique to the individual and having a variety of groups to choose from may be beneficial.  Be informed and know what you need.  Know if you are appropriate for group sessions or if group work is appropriate for you. Grief support groups can be opened […]

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