Do you ever wonder how much worrying goes into being “stuck”?
This comment comes to mind after reading a recent posting from a friend on Facebook; specific reference is made about people who worry about others and the fact the worrying belongs to the worrier.
When I am in the midst of my own stuff or being stuck in sadness or whatever the “problem” is, I don’t initially pay much attention to other people. Upon reflecting on this and the idea that someone might be worrying about me; bothers or causes me to be concerned. I don’t initially think of the fact that the worrying is their process and not mine, BUT…what can I do to stop them from worrying about me?
The solution is to get better or change my perspective – provided the situation is conducive to this.
I wonder if getting better or “unstuck” so someone else feels better is enough of a motivator for me to change how I am reacting to my situation. I can be stubborn and think feeling sad is a good spot to be in for now, hmmmm… for as long as I want.
- Sometimes, I don’t want to care about who is worrying about me.
- Sometimes, knowing a certain person is concerned about me upsets me even more.
I mentioned “enough of a motivator”, now I wonder who would be that important to me to cause me to think more of them than myself? Would this be a:
- Other family member or individual?
For that matter maybe it is a pet.
Who is your motivator?