Their Wishes and Hopes

“Coping with Grief” workshops involve participants identifying some of their concerns and feelings associated with grief and loss. It is common to hear words such as;

Anxiety                          Fear                                   Guilt

Missing                          Positive memories               Negative memories

Sadness                        Emptiness                           Depression

Crying                           Hate                                    Longing

Anger                            Broken heart                        Love

Keep in mind, everyone’s journey and experiences are different

and unique to the individual.

There are times when the topic of an afterlife is brought into the discussion with:

  1. What might the afterlife look like?
  2. What would you want it to look like?
  3. How would you want your loved ones to be in that space?

Comments such as;

Be happy                           Youthful                   Peaceful

Free of pain                        Free spirited            Okay

Now, I want you to put yourself in a different frame of mind and think of how your loved ones would want you to be for the rest of your life?

Just a thought, but let’s imagine:

Happy                         Okay                       Cheerful

Fun loving                    Peaceful                  Safe

Free of pain                 Adventuresome         Carefree

Free of suffering           Content                    Responsible

You might look at this and think or say a number of different comments:

  • I’m not ready to be happy.
  • I feel I would be disrespectful if I was not sad all of the time and missing them.
  • I don’t know how to “feel” anything anymore.
  • I feel guilty when I smile too much.
  • It feels wrong to laugh even when something is funny.

I am not telling you what to do, only providing a different perspective that has been on the minds of many individuals.

You can type in “after life” in the computer and search for books, articles etc. which mention numerous aspects of “after life”.

Two books that come to mind are:

  1. “Heaven is for Real” by Todd Burpo
  2. “The Shack” by WM. Paul Young

Another topic connected to “after life” is “after death communication” which I will explore in more detail with you in another article.

As always, I bring information and food for thought; ideas to explore if you choose to.

All my best,


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