Today is Valentine’s Day, do you care?

For some people this is a special day and for others it may be a day of who cares about Valentine’s Day.

After the loss of someone you care deeply about, does Valentine’s Day have the same meaning?

Hmmm, what does Valentine’s Day mean to you?  One search on the internet and you can find quotes, what to say to your Valentine, the meaning of Valentine’s Day, the history, and much more.

I wonder, when loss plays a part, can one “special” day make a difference in how someone feels about another person?  Perhaps this is all about marketing and getting people to spend their money on flowers, gifts or chocolates, but does it matter when your special person is not here?

In the past, I have not given much thought to how others might feel on days such as this.  Have you?  Hmmm, food for thought.  I am guessing, like many of you, I am too busy.

Now I am pondering, what happens when I am the one experiencing a loss and Valentine’s Day comes around?  Will it matter?  Does it matter?

I do not know for sure.  I can feel myself pausing and not wanting to go to that spot…nope, I’m not going there.  If I don’t think about it, then it won’t happen, I won’t have to experience this.  YA RIGHT!!!  Like life works this way.

I wonder if trying to fool yourself ever works?  Deep sigh, how hard it must be and is for those who grief the loss of a their someone special, no matter their connections.  If the heart feelings are involved, we can all expect the heart to hurt.

Think about those who are missing that special person they care about.  Grief, loss, missing, heart ache and more can be magnified at this time for these individuals.

Perhaps it is you are missing someone special; if not maybe you know someone who is.

Any day can be a special day for someone who is grieving a loss.  Holidays, anniversaries, birthdays, special places, memories, songs, sounds, quiet moments and items you find around the house.  The list can be endless.

Sending lots of (((HUGS))) if you need them.

All my best,

Barbara Gillett Saunders


“It was a million tiny little things that, when you added them all up, they meant we were supposed to be together.”

Sleepless in Seattle

“I hope you don’t mind that I put down in words how wonderful life is while you’re in the world.”
– Elton John (Your Song)