During the next month with my weekly blogs and starting with this newsletter article I will be discussing different aspects of “Partner and Spousal Loss”. The words partner and spouse can refer to several different situations or relationships.
Grief and loss associated with any aspect of an intimate partnership or relationship have concerns that may differ from person to person and between the sexes.
Who are the people involved in the relationship? Is the relationship sanctioned by others such as society, family, friends etc.? A relationship without the approval of others and the inclusion of closeness with extended family members can create additional difficulties for the surviving partner after a loss.
Concerns such as how you are perceived by society after your loss. Is your loss acknowledged and shared with others who love or have loved your partner? Are you openly able to talk about your grief and loss or do you keep much of how you feel locked inside of you? Why?
When the relationship is accepted by others and closeness exists between family, extended family members, etc. the loss experience can be shared to a greater degree.
The other side of the coin is when knowingly or unknowingly the relationship is not accepted by the family and other loved ones of the deceased.
Surviving partner can refer to relationships with gays, lesbians, transsexuals, straight, bisexuals, spouses from second, third and more relationships, mistresses, and if I missed any add it to the list.
Do you know of situations where the surviving partner was discarded or ignored before, during or after the death loss?
Future blogs this month will touch on more detailed aspects of “Bereaved Spouses”, “Gays and Lesbians Who Have Lost a Partner”, and more.
Resources for different types of relationship loss are;
(If any of the above links do not connect, please copy the corresponding address into your browser:
- http://www.connect.legacy.com/group/gayandlesbianswhohavelostpartners )
Future blogs this month will touch on more detailed aspects of “Bereaved Spouses”, “Gays and Lesbians Who Have Lost a Partner”, and “Is Your Grief Disenfranchised” which relates to relationship grief and loss that no one wants to talk about.