Happiness: CAN be found in grief

Happiness: CAN be found in grief

Happiness can be a state of “being” you decide to make a part of your life or not.  There are several books, videos, jokes, sayings, and quotes to explain how to be happy if you go looking for them.

If only we’d stopped trying to be happy, we could have a pretty good time”

by Edith Wharton.

The best way to cheer yourself up is to try to cheer somebody else up

by Mark Twain.

How do you decide what happiness looks like when grief is present?  After years of trying to make changes, or coping with a life full of changes and perhaps some that are imposed on you, some people ask “is there happiness in the midst of grief?”

Yes, there is, if you choose to look or change your focus!  I no way am I stating this is an easy task, because it is not!  I have been there and done that.  You can too.  BELIEVE!

Start with little steps;

  • start your day with a good morning smile to yourself
  • recognize small joys in the world around you such as nature, pets, children etc.
  • listen to music that lifts your spirits and wellbeing
  • dance around the house
  • sing a tune with happy words
  • gradually start to focus less on grief and more on what you like
  • decide what you like or create new dreams
  • dream with intent and create a new life
  • do something just for the fun of it
  • smile at someone you don’t know

Making a new choice and direction in life can be difficult.  Ask for help if needed.  You are not as alone as you may think.  There are some people who are there for you, but they do not know you need them.  ASK! Let others know what you need.

Food for Thought

I have heard the phrase and sometimes use it myself “if in doubt don’t” but…from experience if I stopped doing all of the things, I doubted doing in the first place I never would have accomplished what I have done so far in my life.

The next time “if in doubt, don’t” comes into your thoughts, ask “what are you afraid of?”

Dare to take the step to being all that you can be….

go ahead and do it for YOU!

All my best, 

Barbara Gillett Saunders

Grief Counsellor/Thanatologist