Why Suicide was Chosen as an Option?


This is a question pondered by many survivors of suicide loss.  Some people who die by suicide leave a note, but does the note explain all of what lead up to the final decision?  Compounded, complicated and often difficult life experiences can overwhelm many of us; perhaps for a person who dies by suicide, life is too intense at the time.

Have you had thoughts of suicide in your life?  What was the reason behind it?  I remember the story of a teenager being devastated by a break up and taking a bunch of pills, going to the hospital, having his stomach pumped or being given charcoal to make him sick.  Was it an act of desperation, did he want to be out of the emotional pain he was feeling at the time?  YES!  Did he have the maturity or capacity at the time to understand the implications and affect his decision would have on everyone else?  NO!  The immediate concern was to not “FEEL”, to get out of this situation.

Some possible suicide situations are;

  • After an abortion
  • Being ashamed of what has been done
  • Being Bullied
  • Being pregnant
  • Depression
  • Despair after the death of someone
  • Ending of a relationship
  • Fear of punishment
  • Financial ruin
  • Illness/disease/mental illness
  • Loneliness
  • Not belonging
  • Old age
  • Past indiscretions coming to the forefront years later
  • Revenge
  • Under the influence of drugs/alcohol

The list can be endless.  We can guess, surmise, wonder and assume all we want but the true reason may never be known.

If you are considering suicide as an option

STOP!  Tell someone.

In one minute, hour, or day you may feel differently.  Talk to someone.  Tell someone your fears and concerns.   If you are a teenager who knows someone is considering suicide, please call the police or tell an adult, counsellor, neighbour etc.

I remember being told that stress and facing bad situations is like being

inside of a balloon and when you are just about ready to give up, take one

more step and the balloon bursts.  This is when you are able to see life and

the situation differently.

Distress Lines of Ontario  http://www.dcontario.org/help.html

Open to all crisis calls (not age specific) in Canada and the United States

Call 1-800-786-2929 or visit www.1800RUNAWAY.org –

24 hours a day, 7 days a week, 365 days a year.


All my best,

Barbara Saunders