Now I Lay Me Down to Sleep


As mentioned in the September newsletter (article Pregnancy Loss) “Now I Lay Me Down to Sleep” is a volunteer organization of photographers who give their time to photograph babies who have died. There are specific month of gestation/pregnancy requirements. Local hospitals may have the contact information for your area.

A video describing how the photographers do their job when a baby dies around 25 weeks gestation or sooner at the doctor’s discretion is presented with this link.  (WARNING…the video may be upsetting for some individuals).  I provide information that is available and this video shows and promotes a business in a way I could not do.

Some people may think, “How can someone do this; take pictures of a child who has died”.  During my training with Perinatal Bereavement Services Ontario (PBSO) now known as Pregnancy and Infant Loss Network (PAIL) I heard stories from women who said “This may be the only child I have and these may be the only pictures of my child”.  The pain in their eyes was magnified by their staunch ability to convey their message of loss and love to others.  To these women the gratitude expressed for the photographers who had compassion and sensitivity at a difficult time was immense. 

I spoke with a few photographers who said this is a very emotionally difficult job to do but rewarding as well.  Their heart aches for the individuals and families they meet.  This is done from a pure point of giving in a time of need, sadness and distress.  No one goes untouched by the loss of a child no matter how the loss occurs.


Information from a recent PAIL newsletter re: Pregnancy & Infant Loss Awareness Day

For the past few years PAIL Network has been rallying the Ontario Government to declare October 15th Pregnancy & Infant Loss Awareness Day in the Province of Ontario. Several other Provinces across Canada have already proclaimed this day.

With just over a month left before October 15th rolls around, we would like to start up an email/letter writing campaign targeting Premier Dalton McGuinty and the Ontario Health Minister, Deb Matthews.

We have been informed that both of these people can proclaim October 15th as Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Day in Ontario for this year – an alternative to having a bill passed.  We are asking our members and supporters to send emails out to the Premier and the Health Minister.

We have template letters available. Please email us at if you would like us to send you an electronic copy of these letters that you can use and personalize.

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