Happiness can be a state of “being” you decide to make a part of your life. There are several books, videos, jokes, sayings, and quotes to explain how to be happy.
“If only we’d stopped trying to be happy we could have a pretty good time”
by Edith Wharton.
“The best way to cheer yourself up is to try to cheer somebody else up”
by Mark Twain.
How do you decide what happiness looks like when grief is present? After years of trying to make changes, or coping with a life full of changes and perhaps some that are imposed on you, some people ask “is there happiness in the midst of grief?”
Yes there is, if you choose to look or change your focus!
Start with little steps;
- recognize small joys in the world around you such as nature, pets, children etc.
- listen to music that lifts your spirits and wellbeing
- dance around the house
- sing a tune with happy words
- gradually start to focus less on grief and more on what you like
- decide what you like or create a new dream
- dream with intent and create a new life
Making a new choice and direction in life can be difficult. Ask for help if needed. You are not as alone as you may think. There are some people who are there for you but they do not know you need them. ASK!
Food for Thought
I have heard the phrase and sometimes use it myself “if in doubt don’t” but…from experience if I stopped doing all of the things I doubted doing in the first place I never would have accomplished what I have done so far in my life.
The next time “if in doubt, don’t” comes into your thoughts, ask “what are you afraid of?”
Dare to take the step to being all that you can be….go ahead and let me know your story.